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May 2006 Newsletter: There is a
guaranteed success formula for life
This
Confidence newsletter is sent each month to subscribers of
www.yourmostconfidentself.com from Kate Burton and Brinley Platts,
the authors of "Building
Confidence for Dummies" and creators of the Your Most Confident Self
website.
There is a guaranteed
success formula for life
How confident would you feel if
you had a formula for achieving success in anything you chose to do? Especially
if it absolutely guaranteed you would not fail in anything you took on? You
would feel pretty good about that wouldn't you - if you could bring yourself to
believe it. Well, I have good news because there is a Guaranteed Success
Formula, it has been used in one way or another by most of the great achievers
in history and you are about to learn the clearest, most efficient and easiest
version of it. Follow this formula and you will be able to take on the biggest
challenges in your life and be guaranteed not to fail. Are you interested?
When you really "get" the Guaranteed Success Formula, and commit to it, this
eliminates failure, the fear of failure and the self- recrimination that comes
after a failure; it eliminates these from your life completely. The benefit to
you will be that you will achieve so much more and be so much happier with
yourself. AND you'll be able to teach this same formula to your friends and
loved ones so that they get to change and achieve more too. Pretty soon you will
transform your environment as you all do more, achieve more, live more.
The formula is discussed in detail in Chapter 3 of "Building
Confidence for Dummies", it has six simple steps:
Step One is to set your goal, and if you follow a simple few guidelines in
setting your goal, things will go much smoother. So make sure goal is
well-formed: state it in the positive and in the present (e.g. "I have a terrific
new job" or "I am a great public speaker"), whatever your goal is.
Step Two is to think through the outline plan for achieving your goal. Decide
what will have to happen and your best guess at the order and timing. This is
just your best guess at the moment, using your experience and common sense.
Step Three is to get your plan down on paper, adding in details as you go. Plans
go better with a deadline, and milestones if it takes a long time to deliver
your goal, so you'll know where you are as you work your plan. Add these, and
don't forget to define very clearly how you'll know when your goal is achieved.
This may sound a bit strange but you'd be surprised how easy it is to achieve
your goal and not notice because your mind has already moved onto the next goal.
So, be clear about this.
Your next step is to put your plan into action and pay careful attention to what
starts to happen. This is where the rubber hits the road and you finally get
into action. Take the first action on your plan and get going. Chances are this
is where you are going to have to swallow, take a deep breath (or whatever you
do in these moments), and get yourself into action. The planning phase is
absolutely essential but it's the action that achieves the result. Take your
first planned action, then your next, and your next. As you begin to work your
plan notice what is happening. My friend Andy, a Desert Storm veteran, is fond
of reminding me: "No plan survives first contact with the enemy" and the chances
are that your plan won't work out exactly as you imagined it either. What you do
next it key.
Do you throw your hands in the air and mutter something like: "oh never mind, I
knew it would never work"? No! Do you quietly give up on your dream? No! Do you
scrap your plan and start again with a blank sheet of paper? No! What's
happening is the world is now fully engaged in your dream too and is giving you
feedback. All you have to do is be sensitive to what the world is really telling
you at this point, and take it on board.
This is the critical phase where 99 percent of
people give up. Just when they are developing momentum. You’ve created your
plan, you’ve used all your experience to date to create the best plan you can,
and now that you’ve begun to put it into action the world is giving you up to
date, detailed and specific feedback on your plan. What do you think you should
do now?
This is the critical next step that eliminates failure from your life. You
simply take on board the feedback you are getting, modify your approach and
carry on taking action. You modify, act; modify, act until you get the result
you want. Could it be this simple? Yes! Could this little change in your
approach guarantee you success? Yes! Is it possible that you have been so stupid
that you have never realized this until now? You decide!!
This is the simple success formula that all the great heroes use. In their case
their desire is so big that they simply never give up whatever happens, and our
folk stories recount all the details of the trials they had to put up with
before they were ultimately successful. But it’s also the process used by
inventors, innovators, drugs companies, and anyone who has been professionally
trained in "discovery" or "innovation". It's how Edison famously discovered how
to make the electric light bulb after 9,999 "failures". Only Edison didn't see
them as failures but as 9,999 small steps on the road to a big discovery that
changed the world.
So let's recap. All you have to do to achieve your dream is to see it clearly
and decide exactly how you want it to be; plan your actions as thoroughly as you
can using a few simple planning rules; start taking the actions as planned;
modify your approach and your plan in the light of the results your actions
bring and keep going until you achieve the outcome you're after. Voila! as the
French say: "That's it!"
I give you my personal guarantee that this formula works. You really only fail
in life when you give up on your dreams and goals so ask yourself "how have you
been managing your dreams until now?" Perhaps, like many people, you've been
holding yourself back a bit. Perhaps you've been reluctant to go after anything
too ambitious because you were afraid you would fail and end up looking foolish,
so you've limited yourself. In business we sometimes call this self-limiting a
glass- ceiling. It's invisible but it's there, putting a lid on your ambition
and progress. The Guaranteed Success Formula will smash through your glass
ceilings with ease, and take you to your true level. It might feel a little
clunky at first but as you use it, as you become a "power user" of it, your life
will be transformed, and those of the people around you. This is one of the
greatest secrets in life that you can learn:
There are no failures, only feedback.
Learn quickly from the feedback that life gives you and use it to create the
life of your dreams.
Best wishes
Kate and Brinley
brinley.platts@btinternet.com
Building Confidence for Dummies by Kate Burton
and Brinley Platts
Neuro-Linguistic Programming for Dummies by
Romilla Ready and Kate Burton
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